Couples Therapy/Premarital Counseling
Dr. Swartout can help you and your partner sort out your problems and build a strong relationship. She can also help you fine-tune a good relationship to make it better. Whether you are in the middle of a crisis, moving through a difficult transition time, or discovering unpleasant behaviors--Dr. Swartout can be a tremendous source of support, strength and growth. Dr. Swartout can be the third party who helps you work through anger, resentment or frustration, get to workable solutions, prevent a divorce, enhance your love life, or simply deepen the love you have for each other. When you're struggling with your partner, it's nice to know you're not alone. Her greatest pleasure is seeing couples emerge from a difficult situation feeling more intimate and committed than they ever thought possible.
Dr. Swartout uses a model of therapy called Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) when she works with couples and families. EFT is based on the observation that our most important relationships can trigger strong feelings. Relationships can be both a source of massive stress and pain - and a source of great comfort and joy. EFT helps couples and families learn to deal with these feelings together - in a positive way.
In couples therapy, Dr. Swartout will help you understand your needs in your relationship and help you respond to each others needs. She will also help you learn about the moments when you hurt each other in your “relationship dance” and how you can keep your emotional balance in those moments, then come close and express your softer feelings and needs, allowing you to build a secure and lasting bond with each other.
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Learn How Dr. Swartout does Couples Therapy
Using Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples
For premarital counseling, Dr. Swartout can teach you conflict resolution skills, administer introspective quizzes to expose more of your inner lives and past history with each other, practice real-life exercises to help couples practice cooperative decision-making and compromise before a crisis happens, and help couples discover and have the opportunity to change bad habits which threaten the viability of the relationship.
Evaluate Your Relationship. Take this Checkup:
Couples Homework - to be completed for your first session: It is important that we do not ONLY focus on the hurtful/negative aspects of your relationship.
- Describe the relationship you would like to create.
- What do YOU need to do/change to become a more effective partner?
- How or why would this be difficult for you?
- How motivated are you to make that change?
- What is your level of motivation to work on your personal difficulties?
- If you know that you are breaking up, what do you need to do to split most effectively so that the least amount of wounding will take place?
Read: How to Get the
Most Benefit From Couples Therapy before your first session. Underline
what stands out to you and bring it to your first session.